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Why Do Straight White People Have to Throw It In Your Face That They’re Straight and White?!

A recent post by Jeff Pearlman urged people who don’t embrace homosexuals to “wake the Hell up.” My sentiments exactly.

One of the comments, though, shows how far we have to go. I’d like to say this is isolated, but I hear/see these questions a lot in relation to festivals and parades extolling and advertising Gay Pride and other advocacy related to the acceptance of homosexuals.

“but why does there have to be a day?
why does there have to be a parade?
why do they have to throw it in everyone’s face?
why do they think anyone cares?”

Oh boy.

1. Because they need to raise awareness in order to be embraced and accepted.
2. Because they need to raise awareness in order to be embraced and accepted.
3. I’m sorry, did a gay pride float crash into your living room?
4. Because clearly you do, they’re throwing it in your face!

One of the other common comments I see is “how come there isn’t a straight pride parade?” These are often the same folks who ask why we don’t have a white history month.

Listen. Minorities? They’ve been oppressed, and some of them still are. We have white history month every freaking month, and we have a straight pride parade every time a team franchise wins a sporting championship.

Whites didn’t spend the first hundred and fifty years in this country enslaved, and didn’t have to be hung, tortured, and sprayed with hoses for another hundred years until they attained something resembling a fighting chance at surviving in this country.

Straight people aren’t told on a regular basis that they’re sub-human or going to Hell. Straight people can get married, and enjoy all the rights and benefits that come with that. Straight people can tell people they’re straight without fear of physical attack, being shunned by loved ones, or being told by a country that preaches equality that they need to shut their mouth if they want to go out and die for their country.

So if you’re one of those people that ask the above questions: please, for the love of God, stop saying this stupid shit.

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  1. June 27, 2010 at 10:22 pm

    You’re my new hero. Thanks for being a great straight ally.

  2. June 27, 2010 at 10:40 pm

    This post is amazing. Thank you for expressing what I (and I’m sure TONS of others) think about these people on a regular basis.

  3. June 28, 2010 at 3:48 am

    This post is amazing. Thank you for expressing what I (and I’m sure TONS of others) think about these people on a regular basis.

  4. June 28, 2010 at 6:51 am

    Great stuff.

    I had some thoughts a few weeks ago (from a Christian perspective) on why silence may be a bad choice. Link above.

  5. Alyssa H.
    June 28, 2010 at 8:53 am

    Thanks for this post, man.

  6. GenWar
    June 28, 2010 at 10:14 am

    I keep telling you, Kevin…

    Prejudice and bigotry is who we are, as human beings. Throughout history, there have always been socially acceptable downtrodden. Don’t believe me? Ask a homeless guy. Or a smoker. Or a stripper.

    Asking humans to stop being bigotted and to be loving and accepting is a waste of breath. You’re best bet is to ask them to be tolerant (of course, lacking a better word, we’ve had THAT talk) and not discriminate. Even then, you won’t always get cooperation, though you should…


  7. FTB
    June 28, 2010 at 10:24 am

    I agree with you completely on this issue. It’s ashame there is still so much hatred towards gay people. We are all humans and should be treated as such.
    But I do have one question for you, when will you come out of the closet? If you are advocating awareness for gay people everywhere, why suppress your own sexuality?

  8. Dan
    June 29, 2010 at 8:14 am

    Neither #1,2,3, or 4 would be my response. Instead, I ask, “how has such a deep and hideous perversion as homosexuality become so accepted?”

    The most loving thing you can do for a homosexual is to first cease prodding him on down the path to despair that he treads. Stop cheering his “gay pride” parades and seeking legal endorsement of his ways with same sex “marriage.” This is like plying an alcoholic with Vodka. The superficial good Samaritan thinks that is a loving, “tolerant, accepting” thing to do as he sees the mood of the alcoholic brighten with each additional shot.; this supposed good Samaritan blinds himself to the unavoidable truth that he is doing the most hateful possible thing to this alcoholic.

    That the homosexual is trodding a path to despair is evident in their suicide rates. You respond “that is because bigots like YOU are persecuting them into depression” I respond: first off, I do no such thing, secondly, never in history has persecution caused the persecuted to have skyrocketing suicide rates. Only wayward lifestyles do that.

    • June 29, 2010 at 12:13 pm

      So American Indians have wayward lifestyles? And young women in certain third world countries – wayward lifestyles?

      And gays are like alcoholics because…?

      And why is homosexuality a deep and hideous perversion? Are we going by the Bible, for which moralistic codes are indeed taken piecemeal? I mean, I know a lot of folks don’t think it’s fair to point out items like the endorsement of selling children into slavery and other items that are found in the Old Testament, but they appear with just as much frequency as the mentions and condemnations of homosexuality.

      I find it really strange when folks adopt an anti-homosexual stance as if it were a cornerstone of their belief. If the text is to be used for selective inference and acknowledgement is made that certain aspects are strictly relative to the time period in which they are written, then it can’t be used as a basis with which to make an argument that homosexuality is inherently immoral and/or a “hideous” choice.

  9. Dan
    June 29, 2010 at 12:21 pm

    Indeed sadly Indians do often have terribly wayward lifestyles. I invite you to take a stroll through a reservation some time to see the alcoholism, promiscuity, etc.

    The Bible is not the only authority for a true Christian (a Catholic), although indeed it is very clear from Sacred Scripture that homosexual behavior is condemned- but if you need something even clearer, see the Catechism, which is also authoritative and demands adherence from anyone who wishes to claim he is a Catholic

    “…Basing itself on Sacred Scripture, which presents homosexual acts as acts of grave depravity,141 tradition has always declared that “homosexual acts are intrinsically disordered.”142 They are contrary to the natural law. They close the sexual act to the gift of life. They do not proceed from a genuine affective and sexual complementarity. Under no circumstances can they be approved.”

    • Ellsbells
      June 30, 2010 at 10:16 am

      Resident Queer Catholic here (With the B.A. in Christian Philosophy to back it up) –

      Without arguing on the validity of the claim that Jesus was born, died and rose from the dead (which I think we’ll both agree with here), let’s look at the formation of the Catholic Church. Christianity, at it’s heart, is more than a claim in the good works of Christ – it is a defiant denial of the Roman lifestyle. Early Christians were people of Jewish decent, Jews being a people that had been conquered by the Romans and were brutally occupied.

      Oh, but you say, the Catholics became the power of Rome. And you’re right, we did. Until decadence and a million other reasons caused Rome to fall. Much of the Christian philosophy of the time is written as a direct response to the end of their world.

      Homosexuality was not an uncommon thing in ages past. (See: Greece, Rome.) And if the early Christians were responding against their natural disinclination to be Rome, combined with watching their empire fall, it’s easy to see why they would shun a great many aspects of their roots.

      The Catechism that you cite was not actually written until the 1500’s. Ah yes, that was right after the plague and the black death decimated Europe and left a little over a third of the population dead. Entire towns erased from the face of the Earth. So naturally the Church had to figure out how to increase the population, and started up on this marriage is for the sole purpose of childbirth nonsense, which lead into its railing against homosexuality once more.

      But all of that aside, we are to follow the words of Christ first. And he says love your neighbor as you love yourself. It’s easy to love people who are like you, harder to love those different. If you don’t love those who you oppose, then you’re missing the message.

    • June 30, 2010 at 5:30 pm

      “Indeed sadly Indians do often have terribly wayward lifestyles.”

      I’m sure they’ll be thrilled to hear that. I like, too, how you infer the only true Christians are Catholics. Didn’t know that Catholics were Mormon now. I’ll have to alert the Pope and let him know he should stop regarding other sects IMMEDIATELY.

      My point was that you’re basing your declaration of homosexuality as a deviant and evil behavior on a text that barely mentions it and often comes into conflict with itself. You respond by quoting the Catechism. Great, but you missed the point: you’re basing it on a text that also issues other decrees that are readily ignored on a daily basis by both Catholics and non-Catholics. Then you responded by quoting the Catechism, which was written by the hand of men and based on the text I referred to. Unless you’re suggesting it was written in a vacuum.

      I could continue, but it’s for naught because I’m an atheist which, according to The Catechism, is also a sin. Clearly, we’re coming at this from two wildly different different world views and there’s never going to be a middle ground between us.

      Though I do hope you drop the holier-than-thou attitude, for your sake and that of everyone else around you. It’s obnoxious, grating, facetious, and wholly unnecessary. Your obsession and deification of doctrines and documents is going to get the better of you, whether it’s in life or in an intellectual debate (online or otherwise). You take a very literal approach to it, which displays interest in the words and none of its intent or context (historically or otherwise). You can say and quote all the documents you want, but it’s clear you place higher value in ink than you do in love. And that, to me, is just sad.

  10. Dan
    June 30, 2010 at 3:27 pm

    The Catechism I cite was actually written in the 1990s, and not one word your post diminishes its authoritative nature or demand of adherence over all Catholics.

    I do try to love my neighbor as myself; and if I were following a sinful path, I would not want to be encouraged along that way.

    • Ellsbells
      June 30, 2010 at 4:25 pm

      Except that you don’t get to tell someone what’s a sinful path and what’s not. I remember a certain biblical scene involving a mob trying to stone a woman and something about he without sin throwing the first stone… You don’t get to judge. Above your paygrade.

      According to the Catechism divorce is also as sinful as homosexuality, but many Catholics approve of a woman seeking divorce if she’s getting physically abused, or if her children are. Heck, I know some Catholics who’ve helped families leave when there’s domestic abuse involved. Are they sinful? They’re not abiding by the Catechism.

      See the Catechism and the teachings of Christ sometimes come into conflict. Stop being ignorant.

  11. Dan
    June 30, 2010 at 4:29 pm

    Divorce and remarriage, yes; not mere divorce. And not “as sinful,” either.

    What is your argument, then? That the Catechism is erroneous or that I am not following it correctly? If the former, don’t bother calling yourself Catholic. If the latter, your premises are invalid.

    • June 30, 2010 at 5:32 pm

      Also, do the Catholic Church and yourself a favor and stop declaring who is and isn’t Catholic. It’s not your right or privilege to do that.

  12. Dan
    June 30, 2010 at 9:04 pm

    You are right that if you are an atheist, there is no reconciling our views. I invite you to read over some of the arguments I presented on my own wordpress blog: http://danieloconnor.wordpress.com/2009/09/25/the-masquerading-folly/

    Forgive me if I have come off as hateful in any way; you certainly would not have gotten that impression if we were speaking in person, which is why I tend to avoid online debate.

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